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Poll Question: How old were you when you discovered sexual pleasure? |
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Topic: Sexual Desire (Read 470 times) |
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AWA
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Sexual Desire
« Thread started on: Aug 11th, 2004, 10:21pm » |
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I was just remembering that I used to play with myself before kindergarten, in preschool. It felt good so I did it.
I have always been horny and liked sex. Even when very depressed, I want sex. Sexual desire is one thing depression supposedly takes away, but it never took away mine.
I remember my sister, when she got her period for the first time, couldn't figure out where to put the tampon. It was a big deal around our house, I was asked to show her- which I did not. But how can you not know where to put it? It makes me think she didn't want to touch herself, not even for a perfectly good reason.
Now, she tells me she's not terribly interested in sex. Could live fine without it. I hear this more about women than from women, but have also heard it from women. Most women I've ever discussed the subject with have said they liked sex.
So I have a theory that while of course our experiences affect our sexual desire, I think we're born with a certain level of desire. Why else would a four year old be playing with herself??
I'd like to know what you all think about it. Women particularly. Do you like sex and do you remember knowing early that touching certain places felt really good? Do you see a correlation between early discovery and later desire in yourself?
Please also tell how old you are.
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Re: Sexual Desire
« Reply #1 on: Aug 15th, 2004, 7:21pm » |
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Well, I really didn't know what was going on when I was 10 or 11, I just felt funny sometimes and would hug a pillow between my legs. Eventually I found out what would happen if I did certain things and that was all she wrote...I started having sex when I was, like, 13 with an older boy who I may have mentioned in the past. He never asked nor seemed to care what I needed or wanted, but I was so naive, I didn't know how to explain or anything. Then I got another boyfriend (he was a virgin) and he was so sweet and loving so we spent lots of time figuring stuff out. I never really liked receiving oral sex too much. I was uncomfortable and felt awkward giving lots of instructions. So after that I just told the guy I didn't like it so he didn't have to "go there." That's what I told my future partners. Half the time I figured they were doing it for me any way. I wish I could control who the person is that I desire. I have never "had the hots" for my husband, he was just so good and kind I figured it was time to get married. We had a sex life for about the first four years after we got married; it wasn't that I didn't want sex; God forgive me I DID, but not with him...I won't go into all the suggestions my therapists over the years has given me as to why I have lost desire for him. He's an attractive man, takes care of his grooming, no problems physically, but the thought of us having sex is repugnant to me. I DON'T KNOW WHY. Eventually I began having affairs, and while I hated, despised myself for being a liar and a cheat, I couldn't stop. It continues to this day. At first I was glad for my illness, I figured that would the end of my lustful days, but have recently had contact with a man I believe is my soul mate. Go ahead, laugh your heads off. Until I got to know him I just figured I would never have sex again, and while I thought it was sad, at least I wouldn't have to sneak and lie anymore. But the real me is still here, wanting this man with every fiber of my being. I almost totally stopped masturbating when I got ill. No interest whatsoever. Dead as a hammer down there. But talking to him (something I and my husband never do) and seeing his picture has got me to the point of frenzy. Now, he lives at the top of the US in N.Y. State, while I live in the deep south. He has seen my picture, we have chatted with the webcams on, so we are getting to know each other pretty well. He has brought me back to life. Now all you skeptics and doubting Thomases just shake your heads and smile knowingly, but I'll bet my life come this November when we meet, I'LL be the one with the big old smile. I told him I can never leave my husband, he's okay with that right now, but even I don't know what will happen eventually. I've never felt this way before. So, what were we talking about? Oh, masturbation. Well, all of sudden I'm starting to feel alive, so I figure, well give it a go, see what happens. I quit going after orgasm number 5 which I have never gotten past one, so the combination of his gorgeous sexy face and long dry spell seemed to have had some powerful effects on me...I hope I stayed on topic, probably not, but he's all I think about anyway. Now don't you start fussing at me AWA...I'm bad but I can't help it or don't want to...PS I’m 48 and he is 31 eeeek! 
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